Saturday, January 29, 2011

home with loves

















All the while I think that I don't love my parents much
thank GOD for letting me to go through all this
now only I know how much I love them
how much I care for them
and I would sacrifice anything for them


吵也吵过了
哭也哭过了
痛也痛过了
接下来就是要坚强的走下去

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

love not?


It's not that I don't love
It's because of despair & disappointment
that make me don't want to love anymore




but I still care...

Monday, January 17, 2011

害怕。寂寞




















原来寂寞真的可以吞噬一切
也许忙碌就是唯一的解药


Thursday, January 13, 2011

爱。婚姻

平淡,也要坚持下去

事实上,在亲密关系的早期阶段,特点是充满兴奋和理想。美国临床心理学家称,[ 很多浪漫的恋人期待这种兴奋能够持续到永远。]

逐渐衰退的激情经常被认为是亲密关系的丧钟。目前的社会文化追求高质量的性生活和美满的家庭,这势必须成一种压力,使人们感到留在不够完美的婚姻里,不能使自己幸福快乐,是一种懦弱的表现。本来不满与失望是婚姻中正常的反应,但人们向完美的标准看齐,就变得不能忍受了。

即使婚姻平淡---注意,只是平淡而已,而没有不可协调的严重冲突---也要坚持下去,特别是当你有了孩子以后。


不要鞭策你的伴侣

世易时移,今天的人们对婚姻的要求大大提高了,在婚姻问题上考虑自我现实和人生快乐,还是近年来才出现的潮流。今天大多数的调查却发现,人们是为了爱而结婚。

这强调了婚姻的感情方面,却让夫妇们对将面临的现实问题准备不足。过分关注自我实现的潜能,容易把配偶当成自我现实的手段。配偶除了反映自己的美丽心灵,还要弥补自己心灵中的不完美,因此你会跟妻子说 “减减肥啦,你不能显得我也像个邋遢鬼!” 而不是“减减肥啦,你要得糖尿病啊?!”






Wednesday, January 12, 2011

用两只眼看事情

Got this article from '东方日报’.... it's very meaningful & true, this is how we can survive in a marriage.

那个更适合自己的人,就是所谓的‘灵魂伴侣’---他/她能够弥补我们的缺点,增加我们的力量。。。但现实中,很少婚姻或恋爱关系能够达到这个理想境界。结果,我们一方面很在乎伴侣,却留着一扇后门,经常审视着自己的亲密关系:和别的人在一起,我会不会成为一个开心,更有智慧,更完美的人?灵魂伴侣,成了现代人的一个谜局。

实际上,研究婚姻的心理学家认为根本就没有‘性格不合’这回事。婚姻专家说,婚姻本来就是不和的,所有夫妇都会为一些相同的事情产生分歧。

我们的想法总是过于浪漫,以为只要遇上合适的人,就不会吵架了。吵架的内容总是围绕金钱,子女,性等,但心理学家研究证实,保持长期婚姻幸福的夫妇在这些问题上的分歧,与离婚的夫妇一样多。

美国精神病学家说,‘选错了人’是个误区,实际上所有婚姻可以说是‘性格不合’的---夫妇都来自不同的家庭,对事物有着不同的看法。幸福关键在于用两只眼来看事情:一只眼从配偶的角度看,一只从自己的角度看。


to be continue....

No more tears




















After all,

I've learned when to cry
and
when to stop crying

Monday, January 10, 2011

Heart . Love


My childhood was already a nightmare
Do i have to experience it again??












May be it's just a test from GOD
I will stay strong somehow


No matter what happen,
I'll still love you both,
sincerely.

Monday, January 3, 2011

Try this!

Hey people! you all should really try this personality test, it's just so accurate!
By the way, this is my result=)

Your view on yourself:
You are down-to-earth and people like you because you are so straightforward. You are an efficient problem solver because you will listen to both sides of an argument before making a decision that usually appeals to both parties.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:
You are not looking merely for a girl/boyfriend - you are looking for your life partner. Perhaps you should be more open-minded about who you spend time with. The person you are looking for might hide their charm under their exterior.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:
You prefer to get to know a person very well before deciding whether you will commit to the relationship.

The seriousness of your love:
Your have very sensible tactics when approaching the opposite sex. In many ways people find your straightforwardness attractive, so you will find yourself with plenty of dates.

Your views on education:
Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.

The right job for you:
You're a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you'll be set for life.

How do you view success:
You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:
You are concerned about your image and the way others see you. This means that you try very hard to be accepted by other people. It's time for you to believe in who you are, not what you wear.

Who is your true self:
You are mature, reasonable, honest and give good advice. People ask for your comments on all sorts of different issues. Sometimes you might find yourself in a dilemma when trapped with a problem, which your heart rather than your head needs to solve.